you need to talk to someone hun and a doctor is the best person to speak to about this.
It is all confidential and he will let you know if you do need to loose weight or what else you can do we are always here to listen anyway

hi thanks for the advice it's not my coach she is fab and she wasn't happy before when i crash dieted and fainted on the ice. it's just my view of things and like people say if you dont love your self no one will and i really dont at the moment. and i know that when i lose weight i will be happy. xxx

Hey Holliow.

I am currently age 11 clothes with a belt - I'm 17. I am not healthy, I am not happy, I do not have any energy, I can't do things that I love, and some day's I don't see any point to anything.

I do not have Anorexia Nervosa, neither do I have Bullimia Nervosa. I lost weight in the beginning because I wanted to be thinner, looking back - I was already very thin, and was always called anorexic. (I no longer suffer from this, but my weight is low due to other things at the moment - I am working on it though.)

I doubt very much, that if you went to a size 4, you would be able to skate, as you would feel lifeless and your energy would be drained from your body by the time you would have put your skates on. Granted you may be able to do somethings, but it would hurt when you jumped, and if someone had to life you, it would hurt you because you would have no covering.

I know that this probably isn't going to help you, as when you are in the state of mind that you are, nothing helps until you are able to think differently in your own mind.

Is there a teacher who you can talk to? A friend? Your mum? Sister? Grandparent? Dad? Your coach even? You say that she is great so perhaps she is someone who you could talk to?

What is it you are scared of, about going to the doctors?

Do you mind me asking what your height is? You sound like a naturally slim person anyway, so please don't take this chance to be thinner. Remember all the bad things about when you were suffering from your ED before, and all the things you hated about it.

I don't mean for any of this to come across nastily, neither do I want to sound like I am talking down to you, but you sound quite low, and I'm sure it would help if there was someone who you could find that you could confide in.

Becki. xXx

hi becki thanks for the advice. im 5 ft . i have no one i can talk to and its something i find really hard. i have been asked to go into competition training in skating and for this i would have to wear the skating dresses but with the way i look now i just cant do it. im not going to go back to the ED but i do need tolose this weight. i know i can do it i have done it before but im finding it so hard this time to do it. so when i do get it off its staying off. thank you for your advice though xxx

and leah thanks to you aswel but there is no need to worry about me i will sort it out thank you xxxx

Hey Holliow,

I am wondering how much you weigh? I know that you probably don't want to write it though, could you perhaps say what weight you would like to reach?

How does this feel different to your ED? Did you go to a dangerously low weight when you had your ED?

Like I said before, you are obviously a slim person anyway, because to fit into size 6, you have to be reasonably thin!

You sound like you have a great career/hobby ahead of you! To be offered a place in Competition training, you must be good!

I'm sure there is someone you can talk to? A friend? There must be someone, you may not think they will understand, but maybe they will surprise you.

I know you don't know me from Adam, but you can always write on here and talk. I know I can't fully understand how you are feeling, because everyone feels differently, but I can try to understand.

xXx Becki.

i didnt get dangerously low when i had my ED. i would like to get to about 6 stone. i dont know how its different to my ED this time but it is. thanks for your support xxxx

Hey Holliow,

6 Stones is quite low.... Well, it is really low.

I suppose there is no point in me writing the health risks, because you are likely to know them all already - loss of energy, osteoporosis, loss of periods resulting in infertility and many more.

I really hope that you can find someone, whom you trust in to talk to.

Take Care.

xXx

With all the increased training you'll encounter if you do the competition training you need to find a sports dietitian who can advise you of a well balanced healthy diet that'll help you cope and develop your skating to the next level.
Crash dieting will have the opposite effect. You need all your energy ,strength and stamina .

The weight of the pro female skaters ,around 5ft ,that took part in the Dancing on Ice was about 7st. I personally think 6st is rather low ,Frankie was 6st 7lb and she was more than half a stone lighter than any of the others.

I also wish you could find someone to discuss things with.

Take care.

hi fluffy bunny i understand what you mean but its not that im not listening i appriciate everything that everyone has said but my please help was for help to lose the weight not to put me off the idea. although i know that people are only suggesting because they are worried but i want to lose the weight and was looking for help on how to do that.

With extra hours of training you will be given you will lose weight without having to change your diet. In fact you'll probably have to increase you intake to maintain a sufficient energy level.
Everybody is different ,some can eat what every they want without putting on weight ,others are the opposite. When I was at my most active I was under 10st which at 6ft is well under weight. With inactivity following a Motorbike crash I put on most than 2 1/2 stone which didn't want to come off without changing my eating habits.
Now I'm back to doing sporting things again ,including Ice Skating ,I'm below 11st and am comfortable with it. All the developed muscles are in the right place for the sports I'm doing and as the level of activity goes up I'll will increase my intake to prevent too much weight coming off.

Honestly it's not just a case of losing weight when you are doing high energy sports. You have to have a well balance diet so that you have the right combination that won't hinder what your doing. The fact that they want you to go on to do competition training is excellent and you must have worked hard to get to this level so it's important that you have a well balance diet as it would be a shame to destroy what you have already achieved .Most people can only dream of competing.

A sports dietitian can advise you on a healthy plan to help you along the way and the increased training will do the rest.

leah you haven't offended me at all. and larry im glad to hear you are able to do sports again after your accident. what type of skating do you do?