Hi,

Has anyone gone onto having a baby after having a prem baby?

I had a boy at 38 weeks, then miscarried at 14 weeks and went onto have another boy at 34 weeks. I was in and out of hospital with bleeding but no one knew why and he was born at 34 weeks with no explaination. Luckly he only spent two night in nenonatal and is healthy now.

I would love to have another baby but scared of having another prem baby, maybe even earlier and the baby having difficulties as I feel that he would not be fair on my two boys as it would affected their lives to. I don't want my boys to suffer because of something I did or chose to do. Also money is an issue if we have another, we would have to move again (we only moved in may!) and change car etc etc.

Would I be selfish if I had another? Has anyone had a normal birth after a prem?

I was born 6 weeks early and my mam went on to have 2 more children, both 2 weeks early. I think it's just one of those things to be honest. Babies come when they're ready, not when we're ready! On the other end of the scale, both of my children were induced, the first being 11 days late and the second 2 days late. I'd had so much trouble through one thing and another with the second, including 2 false alarms that we all felt it best to help him along, and he eventually arrived almost 24 hours later! He's been late for everything ever since too!

i had my first daughter four and a half years ago and she was born at 32 weeks because i had severe pre eclampsia and toximia(sp) she weighed 3lb in weight and we almost lost her when both her lungs collapsed but she was a fighter and come through it in fact she started school this week and is the tallest in her class,she was born by emergency c/section.

when she was eight months old i found out i was having another baby(planned) i was monitored very closely for pre eclampsia and i went full term i was stated off 4 days before my due date and was in labour for 36 hours before being whipped off for another emergency c/section and i had another girl who weighed a healthy 9lbs 1oz,we were delighted but never planned any more untill last year when i found out i was having another baby i was devastated cus we were right on top of getting married and i had to change my dress but i was monitored exactly the same very closely and was told that i would have to have another c/section and on the 28th november last year i had another girl weighing 8lb 12oz so if you want another baby dont be afraid because your first was prem, a good hospital will look after you properly i'm not having any more i was sterilised after daisy was born.hope this helps you good luck

 

angie x 

hi hun my second son was born at 33 weeks with no problems thankfully. i then went on to have my 3rd child and she was born fine at full term by c-section. i know it is scary but every pregnance is different and belive me i know i've had four.  All the best only u know what is right for u take care xx

Hi,

 Thanks for all your replies they have really helped, thanks for taking the time to write back.

I just wondered Becca5769 was your first full term?  Did they give you any reason why your second was born at 33 weeks?  I am going to have a leg operation next month which means crutches for 6 weeks, great fun with two boys!!!    I am really thinking of trying later in the year for another.  Did they watch you anymore closely?  Thanks again. Take care x

 

hi sorry its taken me so long to reply my first son was induced at 37 weeks as he had stoped growing and they thought he was going to be a tiny baby.  He came out a healthy 6lbs half and oz.  Connor my first prem baby was due to placently abropution.  When i fell with my 3rd it was more consultant care than midwife, they were going to let me try for normal birth but her heart rate dipped badly so that was op no2.  I have had four now and really want an other one yes i am mad!!  Hope your op goes well only you know when your ready to start trying again.  Take care xx

Hi, I had my son at 25 weeks!!!!  We waited 5 years then we were very lucky to be sent to the John Radcliffe Hospital in Oxford where we were seen by a Mr Impy in the feto medicine unit. He gave us our probabilities and performed miracle surgery!! We were treated like royality!! We now have a very healthy happy 2 1/2 year old who I managed to carry until 37 Weeks. Mentally it was hard on me because of the fear however it was definmately worth it. Why dont you contact the unit and have a one off private consultation at least you would know if you can carry any further, or better still try to get your GP to refer you, we were not living in that area at that time either.

Good luck.

 

hello my name is mandy i am now 39 with three children. My 15 year old was born at 24 weeks she weighed 1lb 6oz she spent the first 3 months of her life in hospital. Before having my daughter i had suffered 2 miscarriages and an eptopic pregancy. After having my prem i went on to have two normal pregnancys that were both pretty normal ish!.. The doctors tend to watch you more and test you for all sorts of problems to make sure it doesnt happen again..I will say this! my first labour was by section so i didnt do any hard work, my 2nd was horrific as it was like my first but my 3rd was almost pain free. I felt scared after having my prem baby and having my two sons 12 months apart gave me 3 children under 5 i have never looked back and would do it all over again.....I wish you wellxxxxxx

Just wanted to share my story.

 My first baby was premature by just under 12 weeks.  It was touch and go and everything that could go wrong did go wrong. In the end though she is fine and everything turned out well - she is now 13!

My second pregnancy went without a hitch and I was overdue - so glad not to have had the premature problem again.

I am currently pregnant (14 weeks) with my third (probably last) baby and fingers crossed all will be well.  It is such an anxious time but as my last pregnancy was fine I'm just hoping this one will be too.

 

''everything that could go wrong did go wrong''............. '' she is fine''   What an unsensitive fool you really are!   Think about it (or is that asking too much of somebody as hard done to as you). Grow up and think about the poor women who's children don't make it!

I think your response to tigs? is a bit unsensitive too!  You don't know tigs? so I don't think you should judge.  She was just sharing her story. 

I think what you have written about tigs? is very insensitive.  You don't know tigs? or tigs? circumstances.  She was just sharing her story - as it says at the top of her post!

I would just like to say congratulations to tigs? on your pregnancy. My 1st son was born 2 wks late, I was induced and din't have a worry in the world, My 2nd son however was born 5 weeks premature and I had problems throughout my pregnancy (tummy too big, head too big, tummy bigger than tummy, legs too short and a cyst). Picture an alien with no legs big tummy and bliming fat. Well thats what I kept thinking and it stressed me out like u would believe, I am adament that it was in insensitivity of the midwife and the sonographer (who took the scans) that led me to become so scared that I went into labour early.

 I understand 5 wks is no where near as prem as your first born but to me very scary.  Having already had a pregnancy with no problems I went into my 2nd pregnancy with no qualms untill my scans!! I would now believe that if are stressed you cn bring labour on early so take everything as a pinch of salt ignore all statements from members of medical teams. I wish I had, ok sounds a tad imature and I did listen to them a bit but when it came to giving birth to an alien, I was worried and out ''popped'' a beautiful baby boy 5lb 4oz and gorgeous with legs and a norm size head and tummy that wasnt bigger than mine!!!!!!!!!

Once again congrats and relax, take time out 4 yourself and be happy with the fact you have nbeen blessed.

Finally as a middle child of 3 I am begging you not to stop at 3 hehe there is rucks all the time and that is more stressful than a newborn screamin for no reason!!!!!

Good Luck x

I had a son born 2 weeks late then went on to have another son born 5 weeks premature.  I have stopped there due to money, I dont want to uproot my sons as my eldest is in yr 1 at an excellent school, and my 2nd starts school in January. U didnt mention the age gap between these children nor how old they are now.  Moving home is quite a stressful time and it is best to do this before planning the next pregnancy giving you time to relax so as not to stress yourself.

 Bleeding in pregnancy is actually quite common although scary and a miscarriage could be a result of this, I am wondering if doctors took blood tests etc.

Pregnancy is a stressful time especially after a tough start, so as long as u can relax and maybe have some councelling so as to put the turmoil (not memories/feelings for the child) of the miscarriage behind you to help you have a great 3rd pregnancy.

And as I mentioned to somebody else I am 1 of 3 and PLZ dont have 3 children and stop it is soooo stressful with many fights 2 against 1!!!!

Good luck on what you decide x