hey there

my name is Ivan-Jay Brown

i'm 18 years old

i need to what to do with the situation i am in

me and my ex girlfriend wos togetha for nearly a year

but i finished it in may 2009 because of the arguments were geting to much

we broke up a couple of times

 but near theend of the relaionship she accused me of cheaing on her

because someone sent her a email saying i cheated

but the truth is i never cheated once nd i still in love with her and i want her back

i have not got rid of this feeling for months nd it feels that my heart is going to rip out of my body

 i want to prove that i didnt cheat nd hopeful she will take me back knowing that i didnt cheat

 

any advice plzzzzzzzz

you need to find out why she believes you cheated and sit down and have a grown up conversation, no arguments, no accusations, just talk and then see where that leads you

I agree with Flirty,you must get her to discuss it with you.But are you sure she just didn't use this as an excuse to get out of the relationship.I would always give the bloke I was at least a fair hearing and ask the person he was supposed to have cheated with.I know the feeling you have and I can only suggest that until you get to try and sort this,do things to take your mind of it.Not easy I know but at least it will make the time go quicker and treat yourself hun.I know it really hurts so look after yourself and help your friends for help and have a laugh with them.But make sure you sort it with your girl.Don't leave it.I was in your situation over 20 years ago and I never fought for my man[I was innocent too] and I have always regretted it.I should have proved my innocence but I was so shocked and upset it ate me up.But you know,if my bloke had thought that much of me he would have at least listened to me.He never gave me a chance and why should he as I never fought for it.

However,if your girl does give you a fair hearing and you still can't work it out then move on.Harsh I know and I won't tell you time will heal blah.blah,blah and your only young as you don't want to hear it I know!!At the moment I bet the pain is excruciating but trust me,if you sort it,or if you don't,I will make a bet with you that in 5 years time I could mention this to you and you will say'Oh that,well I was young then and well my life is great now and I gotta a girl who I'm well happy with'Don't believe me?I promise you....!

So take care and when your ready go out and have a blast.But take your time.x

Sounds like she has given you the elbow son.  Take it on the chin and move on.

By all means, feel free to apply for the show where you can take a lie detector test but be prepared to be called a liar regardless of whether you're telling the truth or not.  Polygraphs are notoriously unreliable and the only people who claim they are around 96% accurate are the people who make a living on them such as Jezza.  Most scientist agree that their accuracy is no better than chance which is 50/50.  I've lost count of the number of people who have been abused by Kyle on the basis of a polygraph test...then there are guilty people who can manipulate the outcome of the tests by controlling their own heartbeat etc.  Many of these people are liars but they're not painted with the same brush as the people who are unfortunate to have failed the test.

Going off on a tangent here...point is, go and pull her best mate or something.  That'll teach her! ;)